1 day before my sister’s wedding, she texted: “You’re out of my wedding—only real family belongs here.” I replied: “Good. Real family can pay for the venue themselves.”

also started therapy.

Dr. Adler was in her mid-fifties and wore reading glasses on a chain.

At our first session, she asked me something I couldn’t answer.

If you stopped giving, who are you?

I stared at her.

I didn’t know.

I had never not been giving.

Then that was where we would begin.

It wasn’t some dramatic breakthrough.

Just a crack in the wall.

Small enough to miss.

Large enough to let light through.

Three months after the wedding, Jessica sent another message.

It was different from the first.