“My house, my rules,” my daughter-in-law said as she took back the spare key, expecting me to stay with the children while she and my son went away for the weekend.

an arrangement that worked. I told them I could give Mondays and Wednesdays going forward, but they needed other coverage the rest of the week.

“Can we not make family into a rigid schedule?” he asked.

“You’ve already made one,” I said. “I’m telling you which parts I agreed to.”

Lucy asked the next afternoon whether I was angry with her parents. We were coloring together at the table. I told her grown-ups could love one another and still need different rules. She accepted that and chose another crayon. I