My mom said, “No one needs you to come this Christmas.” “Cool,” I replied. Then I added one sentence: “Well… everything will be canceled then.” And slowly, my mom’s face turned pale.

toward the narrow strip of light from my apartment, at the blurry shapes moving inside.

Then I looked back at her.

“What I want,” I said slowly, “is a mother who doesn’t treat me like a servant or a spare part. I want a family where my worth isn’t measured by how well I make you look. I don’t know if you’re capable of being that person.”

She flinched.

“So that’s it.”

“No,” I said. “That’s the starting line. If you want a relationship with me, here are the rules.