The fifth time my husband stayed out all night, I didn’t call him—I opened his company’s Slack and told more than five hundred employees

summer wool suit. He’d never actually demanded the reorganization. I’d done it for him out of love, as I’d done so much else.

I knew his coffee order, the allergies of directors’ spouses, and which cuff links suited an investor dinner. I chose the tie that made him appear approachable, remembered birthdays in his family that he forgot, and sent flowers when his oldest client’s mother died. I’d maintained our home like a luxury hotel designed for one cherished visitor. Recently, the visitor scarcely came home.

His first overnight absence