My husband sent another woman a huge bouquet of white roses and pink peonies with a card signed “Love, Daniel,” and by one careless mistake, those flowers arrived at our house instead.

began naming the pattern: “It means I’ve listened every time you said you were working late.” His defense was “I was working.”

I continued, “Every time you said you had dinner with the team.” He replied, “I did.” Then I said, “Every time you took your phone into the bathroom.” His expression flickered. Only while speaking did I realize how frequently he had carried that phone into the bathroom. Another apparently harmless memory acquired a terrible new meaning. Leaning against the counter, he declared “This is getting out of control.”